Having had almost 30 years of calling doctors, visiting hospitals, having social workers question my sister and I, my understanding and knowledge of the systems in place are, to be honest, pretty expert. Yet I feel completely alone when trying to speak to professionals, put in place help and if I'm honest talk to someone about how angry the whole situation makes me. A doctor telling you your mum isn't 'depressed' along with her support worker going MIA despite numerous emergency messages and emails isn't support - it's severely lacking, I understand funding and staffing crisis, but I also want them to understand mental health, the isolation and desperation of the situation.
I could cry, but I don't. My coping mechanism has always been to detach from the situation and see my mum as 'an illness' at these times, the things she will say and do aren't her. They aren't my kind, caring, ditzy mum who loves a Chinese takeaway and a bit of Olly Murs.
Why did I write this post? Because I hope it'll help anyone else having to support someone with mental health problems realise they aren't alone, and I am determined to make sure that children don't grow up having to understand and care for a parent, family member or friend with no help or support for themselves. After all, those surrounding the person suffering want to be strong, healthy and able to offer a light - so what about us?